Q: My spouse is being transferred and we have to move, but I don’t want to leave my job and friends. What can I do?
A: A lot of people face this situation in our transient culture where the majority of households have a husband and a wife working. So when a husband or wife is being transferred, that suddenly causes a lot of decision-making in the household because a whole family is being affected.
If your spouse is being transferred and you really hate to leave your friends, we will tell you what you should not do. Do not decide that you’re going to stay behind. Now, you may need to stay behind for a short time in order to fulfill some obligations, or to sell a home, or whatever. But don’t do it because you just can’t leave your friends. Don’t put your marriage at risk that way.
If you have a choice about the move, then by all means both of you (and children to a certain extent) need to be in on the decision-making process. Seek God’s guidance. Weigh the pros and cons. Visit the possible new location if you can so that you get a sense of God’s calling.
If you don’t have a choice, then you need to be able to look at this from God’s perspective. He has a plan. He wants you in this new location for some reason. He has something new for you. He has new friends to add to your life. Take it on as an adventure.
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