Why be “Equally Yoked”?


Q. I’m a Christian. Why is it important for me to be married to a Christian?

A. Believers have to be careful not to be “unequally yoked” with unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14, KJV), because no matter how much love you may feel as you’re dating an unbeliever, it won’t carry you through years of going to church alone, arguing over your views of finances, raising kids, and dealing with life’s other issues. Picture yourself being alone because you can’t connect at the area of your life that is most important: your deep and intimate relationship with Jesus Christ. When you marry an unbeliever, you will eventually experience a very painful emptiness in your marriage.

This is a significant issue because when you’re making decisions together, you’ll want to be able to discuss those decisions from the standpoint of both of you desiring God’s will. Resolving conflict and experiencing forgiveness need to come as an overflow of a personal relationship with Christ. When you’re dealing with finances and the stewardship of your God-given resources, your decisions need to come through a filter of the relationship with Jesus Christ. The physical aspect of your relationship is most fulfilling when it comes from your own deep intimacy with Jesus.

[Jesus said,] “I am the vine; you are the branches. Those who remain in me, and I in them, will produce much fruit. For apart from me you can do nothing.” John 15:5

Excerpted from The Great Marriage Q&A Book.