It’s All About Perspective—Being a Builder in Your Marriage

" Preme Team " by  Guian Bolisay  is licensed under  CC BY-SA 2.0 .

"Preme Team" by Guian Bolisay is licensed under CC BY-SA 2.0.

Coach Lou Holtz says you can divide people into two categories: builders or bashers. Another said drainers or replenishers; take note — your perspective is 90% of how you’ll respond in life! How would your family describe you? Are you naturally negative or positive in your outlook?

Many years ago two salesmen were sent by a British shoe manufacturer to Africa to investigate and report back on market potential.

The first salesman reported back, "There is no potential here — nobody wears shoes."

The second salesman reported back, "There is massive potential here — nobody wears shoes."

Here’s a single situation where perspective may be viewed in two very different ways — negatively or positively. How would you have responded?

How you view your marriage will depend greatly on the decision you make about your perspective. Are you going to choose to be a builder or a basher? Deciding each day to see the good in your spouse will help you squash anger and encourage joy! Instead, fight your critical spirit and choose to acknowledge the mowed lawn, daily provision or simple “I love you.”

Here’s the drill…

You can change your marriage by changing your perspective. Spend the next few days focusing on the good qualities your mate has and the good parts of your marriage. Controlling your thoughts can be hard, but practice, practice, practice and you will see results!